Guest Post by Divyam Kaushik

Hello lovely readers, Today we have Divyam KAushik as our guest who will enlighten us about the Gender Inequality that has become so common these days. Thankyou so much Divyam for throwing light on this sensitive issue and I respect your thoughts.

Gender Inequality in India

 I find most men, very hypocritical when they talk about women. I think that is an issue. It all stems from the fact that they think women are some other kind of beings. Many men around us believe that women are unnecessarily pampered.

They say that we keep screaming about, “Oh, it’s a man’s world, it’s a man’s world”, but the men are opening doors, men are pulling chairs, men are being made to give up their seats to women, so how is it a man’s world?

But, we need to realize that how every step of the way a woman is violated. Her rights, her dignity is violated, over and over, again, at the hands of men. It needs to dawn upon us, as to why women across the globe have been screaming doing a way with Gender Inequality.

Gender Inequality is very big problem in our country. Even though women have their quotas, they have everything in place, but still by the end of the day it’s the mentality that matters.

A household maid asked a celebrity if she wakes up and makes breakfast for her husband, because she might have thought that’s how the things might work.

She said, “No, I don’t.”

And the maid turned around and said, “You know, you’ve never been given a beating by your husband, that’s the problem.”

And when she said that, I realized that, very unfortunately, when her son marries and brings a woman home, she is going to be the one who is going to instigate her son to beat his wife. So, it’s going to be the mother who is going to be responsible for the other woman to be ill-treated at the hands of a man.

Generations now, a lot of gender inequality has gone unseen.

Even in my household, not just in mine, in almost every other household, our mothers cook and our fathers either don’t cook that often or don’t cook at all. And we see asking them for tea, lunch, dinner from our mothers. I say that instead of expecting tea from them, why can’t we go and surprise them with a tea. It is purely a matter of sensitivity. If you treat women as equal, you’ll get up and make a cup of tea for them, instead of expecting them to bring a cup of tea for you.

If the world actually gets flipped and I was a woman, I think I would get paranoid because I am constantly checked out, constantly layered at. I think it would start driving me completely crazy.

The safety issue of  women, you know the amount of rapes we have or at least the ones which are reported, now it’s been coming more and more in the limelight by becoming way more conscious of gender inequality there is.

We have less priority for women education, and not only that, we also have less women in the working and professional environment. I know that this is not an ideal world. Here I am talking about the female sex, who are at a slight disadvantage in times and a lot of it is manufactured by men.

You know gender inequality in our lives exists in such a way that we don’t even realize that it’s happening. Sometimes I find women also take so much for granted, like, “Oh, we are women, so we are not even going to get that.” They don’t even question it.

I can give a 100% guarantee that, yes, this kind of judgment and bias exists in our society and that many, many, many, many men out there will disagree with me on this, because they will say, “No, nothing of such kind takes place around us.” And there are a lot of deep-rooted misconceptions they have that just because they are in a city, in a cosmopolitan setup, such things don’t take place as much as they do in the rural parts of the country.

In our country people have issues in taking order from women. Big issues. And that is why women in powerful positions have to become more assertive than they ever have because otherwise nobody does anything, because women are achieving things, women are doing things with their lives, that women are successful, so much more successful that I find people feeling threatened. Men feel threatened.

Such men exist in our would that there is a sense of superiority and arrogance, especially in the corporate world, because for them it’s new that women are part of the corporate world, in our country. When there’s a woman who is presentable, well educated, independent, either she is considered to be like a slob or a bitch to get her job done, or she’s supposed to be…you know we have labels for women. You can be assertive without being aggressive also, but that labeling exists in such a deep seated way, almost as if a career woman is a bad thing.

I read and see men making all these casual jokes and remarks made about the periods all the time. I talked to my girlfriend about this and she said, “It’s really exhausting because it is a time and a cycle where you are going through a lot of physical exhaustion. It’s very difficult for men to understand, so I think if men have their period that would be nice. And second, wearing high heels and tight clothes and see what that feels like and have women staring at you and your crotch all day long.”

You know what’s the biggest problem in India today?

SEXISM

So, STOP HARASSING WOMEN. Give them equal opportunities to lead.

STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN. STOP SEXUAL HARRASMENT OF WOMEN.

STOP KILLING THE GIRL CHILD.

No one understands subtlety. So tell them at their faces.

END SEXISM.

END GENDER DISCRIMINATION and

END GENDER PREJUDICE against all girls and all women, everywhere.

GENDER EQUALITY is GOAL 5, of United Nations Global Goals for Sustainable Development.

You know how we can change this situation?

GO TELL EVERYONE. DON’T WAIT ANYMORE.

TELL EVERYONE

 

About the Guest

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Divyam Kaushik is a Graphic Designer who is also the co- owner of Scribblers. He has written a novel named ‘Love Me Like You Do’ which is really appreciated. He has also contributed his stories in some of the anthologies and ‘Turning Point of Life’ and ‘Strings of Love’are one of them.

P.S. Also read my book review of ‘Love ME Like You Do’

http://reviewswithsur.blogspot.in/2015/12/love-me-like-you-do-by-divyam-kaushik.html

Guest Post by Sandeep Sharma

Hello Fellas, today I invite Sandeep Sharma for a guest post where he would share his journey of being an author. I hope you will relate to him as we all have gone through such a phase.

                               ~Surbhi Sareen

I want to start something

“I want to start something.”

“What?”

“I want to become a writer.”

“That’s good.”

“But how?”

I once had this conversation with my father. He gave me two brilliant advices. First was that before thinking to spend ‘money’ (in this case your dedication), spend ‘time’. His advice was actually to talk to some authors and have an insight of the industry. I tried a lot but no one actually helped me back then. The reason is still unknown. Will talk about the second advice in a while, before that I’ll tell you what I did wrong in the journey of becoming author.

After reading Sydney Sheldon’s ‘Are You Afraid Of Dark’ at the age of 15, my interest in reading grew up. I then picked ChetanBhagat’s ‘5 point someone not to do in IIT’. I picked this book as someone advised me to readthe same. I loved the book. The best part of the book was the flashback thing. I never could have imagined that a book could be so good that it will indulge me for 8 hours straight. Then I inclined towards Indian Authors and picked Kushwant Singh’s ‘A train to Pakistan’. This was my dad’s choice. It was fabulous but was not as entertaining as my previous reads (my personal view as I love different kind of genre and writing style). After reading these 3 novels, suddenly at the age of 18, I decided to write a book. It took me 4 months to complete the script of 38,000 words. I was extremely happy and then I started to take series of wrong decisions.

I decided to publish it through Notion Press. Back then, I had no idea about editing. I never thought that my English could become such a hindrance. I always thought that the story backs up the book and English and writing style is just a side-line. I was so excited to see the printed form of my work that I paid no attention over cover design and editing part. Within a month, my paperback dream got fulfilled. I was in college and was confident that everyone will surely buy and support the author. ‘The Author’, I still regret that day when I thought I have become an author.

I placed 100 books in the common area and invited teachers and students to see the ‘Mammoth’ thing that I have achieved and in short buy the books so that I can proudly shout that I sold out 100 copies within an hour.

Hour passed, a huge gathering came but the sales were just 2. That was the first realization of truth. If we compare this to present scenario, you’ll see 100’s or maybe thousands of ‘likes’ on your posts regarding the book release but the sales will be just 1 or 2%. Be ready to feel heart-broken as I was not. I cried that day a lot as I knew nothing what lies in the future; future was even darker. First professional review came for the book and the unexpected occurred. The reviewer tore the book apart in his review. ‘Young Author’ died that day.

Then begins the time of self-realization. Journey of going back to basics starts and then I realized the meaning of my father’s second advice. His advice was ‘before asking how, you should ask when?’ The basic idea of becoming an ‘Author’ is to know when to write a book. Before writing a book, read at least 100 books. (I read around 200 books before writing ‘Hey Dad! Meet my Mom’ and that paved the way of my ‘little’ success in the industry.) Study the writing style of your favourite author. Try to gulp down the small elements that authors deliberately put in their write ups and after doing this, you’ll surely have a story in your mind. Once you have the story ready; stop reading. STOP READING when you are writing. While writing the book, there will come sometime when you’ll feel demotivated, that is the time to read again. Simple, isn’t it.

Now as your book is ready. Wait. Re-read and hire a professional editor. Ask some of your friends to give honest opinion about the book. During this process, just relax. Don’t panic. Now when the publishing part starts, switch from ‘Author’ to ‘Salesman’.

That’s all for today; hope that this will help.

 

About the author

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Sandeep Sharma (23), made his debut in the writing industry with ‘Hey Dad! Meet my mom’, the book which is still a hot topic of discussion amongst readers. He is currently working on his start-up venture named ‘Author Paradise’ that works for the benefit of Authors to provide them well-organized online & offline publicity. By education, he is a civil engineer who graduated from JSS Academy of Technical Education, Noida.

He is very passionate about writing and has been writing short stories for his personal blog since 6 years and they were published various times. He has also co-founded ‘The Author’s Blog’, a platform that tries to bridge the gap between authors and readers. He is an avid reader and loves to review books on his blog. He is a well-known reviewer in the literary world.

He can be contacted through:

E-Mail: sandeeplochansharma@yahoo.in

Facebook: www.facebook.com/sandeeplochansharma